Couples Retreat
Breaking Patterns Retreat
Breathing New Life Into Your Marriage
Break the patterns holding your marriage hostage,
even if you’ve tried therapy, tools, and way too many long, hard conversations that didn’t change anything.
This might sound painfully familiar:
Your marriage isn’t abusive, and you’ve already done a lot of the trauma work to heal from your past.
You understand your past, your triggers, and where your reactions come from.
And still, the same patterns keep showing up between you.
You know there has to be a better way, but you’re not sure what else to do or how to get there.
The marriage you’re hoping for looks more like this…
• There is joy in your relationship that makes it possible for you to reach for each other instead of scrolling or sleeping back-to-back
• You start to feel like friends again because being near each other feels comforting and fun, not charged or tense
• When conflict shows up, repair happens quickly and kindly, instead of turning into a 2 hour fight that goes nowhere
• Intimacy feels enjoyable and mutual, not something you avoid or brace for
The shift you’ve been waiting for happens when insight turns into action.
Breaking Patterns Retreat
Breathing New Life Into Your Marriage
A small, in person retreat for couples ready to move beyond insight and create real change in how they relate.
Held April 30 through May 2, 2026, near Bear Lake, Utah, this retreat takes place in a private mountain setting designed to give you and your partner the space to prioritize each other and create meaningful change in your marriage.
Most couples who come to this retreat aren’t starting from zero. You’ve done therapy. You’ve done personal healing. You understand your history and your triggers. And yet, when things get tense, the same patterns still take over.
That’s because insight alone doesn’t change how a relationship functions under stress.
At this retreat, Robyn and Brent teach the principles that helped them stop managing each other and start strengthening themselves as individuals inside the relationship.
Instead of focusing on who’s right or what to say, you’ll learn how patterns form between two people, why they persist even after healing work, and what actually interrupts them in real time.
When individuals become steadier, the relationship naturally becomes steadier too. That’s the shift this retreat is designed to support.
All the details you need to know:
April 30-May 2
• Hosted and led by Robyn and Brent. Over three days, you’ll be taught the core principles and perspectives that made the biggest difference in their own marriage after years (and years) of struggle.
• You’ll learn how to recognize the patterns that keep showing up in your marriage, understand why they persist even after healing work, and what actually helps interrupt them in real moments.
• Couples are invited to ask questions throughout the retreat. When questions are brought forward, Robyn and Brent offer live coaching and feedback so everyone can learn through real examples, not hypotheticals.
• This retreat is for couples who have already done personal or trauma healing work and are ready to integrate that growth into the relationship itself.
The Location
Nestled in the mountains of Bear Lake, UT, these secluded homes sit beside a protected wildlife area, where you can hear the creek, the birds, and nothing else. Built specifically for these retreats, it’s a private, sacred space where marriages can be mended, families strengthened, and souls rejuvenated under open skies and star-filled nights.
An Intimate Setting
The retreat is intentionally limited to four couples, creating room for depth, safety, and unrushed conversation without the overwhelm of a large group.
Coaching That’s Built In
This weekend is designed so meaningful conversations and coaching unfold naturally. Through guided conversations and live coaching woven throughout the retreat, patterns that keep showing up in your marriage are gently named and explored in real time. You don’t need to prepare, perform, or know what to ask. Come as you are. We’ll guide the process, and help you make sense of what’s happening in your marriage.
Your Stay
All meals and lodging are included. Each couple will enjoy a private bedroom with an en suite bathroom, offering both comfort and quiet space to rest and reflect.
Bonuses included with your stay:
• Couples massage
• A one hour 1:1 couples coaching session with Robyn prior to the retreat so content can be catered to your needs.
• One hour coaching session during the retreat to apply the work directly to your unique dynamic.
Investment: $1500 per couple.
Step away from daily life and into something different.
Every year you carry the same unresolved patterns forward, they quietly shape how safe and connected your marriage feels.
This retreat creates a pause from daily life so you can slow down, step out of survival mode, and give yourselves dedicated time to learn the principles that actually interrupt those patterns and bring relief into the relationship.
From: “We’ve grown individually, but our marriage hasn’t caught up.”
To: Understanding how individual growth translates into real relational change.
From: “Conflict still escalates or shuts us down.”
To: Knowing how to respond in ways that feel steadier and more connected.
From: “We feel unsure whether things can really change.”
To: Leaving with confidence because you finally see what’s been missing.
We’re Robyn and Brent.
We host this retreat because this work changed our marriage in ways nothing else did.
Before we ever taught these principles, we lived the frustration of doing all the “right” things and still feeling stuck. With abuse in Robyn’s past and Brent with his own baggage, we hit a point where we knew we needed outside help. So, we went to therapy. We attended conferences. We worked hard to communicate better. And yet, the same arguments kept cycling, intimacy was basically nonexistent, and our relationship felt heavy and hopeless.
What finally began to shift things wasn’t learning more therapy terms (though we did get really good at weaponizing them) or trying harder. It took understanding how our individual patterns were colliding in the relationship, and learning how to strengthen ourselves instead of managing each other.
This retreat is an invitation to step into that same turning point. We don’t share theory. We teach what actually helped us interrupt long standing patterns and bring steadiness, clarity, and new life into our marriage.
You’re not stuck because you’re unwilling to do the work.
What Changed for Couples Who Attended
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this retreat right for us if we’ve already done therapy or personal healing work?
Yes. This retreat is designed for couples who have already done individual healing and or therapy together as a couple, understand their past, and have spent a lot of time trying to work on their relationship, but still feel stuck in familiar patterns.
At the retreat, you will gain new insight, but not just more awareness of your history or triggers. Robyn and Brent teach principles about what actually creates a healthy, thriving marriage, many of which challenge common assumptions about relationships and even contradict what couples often learn in traditional marriage therapy.
The focus is on learning a different way of understanding yourself, your partner, and the dynamic between you, and then translating that understanding into real, lived change in the relationship.
Is this retreat therapy or trauma work?
No. This is not therapy, trauma treatment, or a space for processing past events. The retreat is instructional and coaching based. Robyn and Brent teach principles that help couples understand how patterns form and what actually interrupts them, without diagnosis, treatment, or emotional overwhelm.
What if one of us is more hesitant than the other?
That’s common. Many couples attend with different levels of readiness or confidence. This retreat does involve honest self confrontation and personal responsibility. You don’t need to agree on everything or show up perfectly for the work to be valuable, but you do need a willingness to look at yourself and how you contribute to the dynamic.
What will the group format be like?
The retreat is intentionally small, with a maximum of four couples. The format is primarily instructional, led by Robyn and Brent. Couples are invited to ask questions throughout, and when questions are brought forward, Robyn and Brent offer live feedback so everyone can learn through real examples. You will not be required to share personal details unless you choose to.
Will we get any one on one support?
Yes. Each couple receives a private one hour coaching session during the retreat to apply the principles directly to your specific relationship dynamic.
What if our marriage feels fragile right now?
This retreat is for couples whose relationship is not abusive and who are emotionally stable enough to engage in learning and reflection together. If you are in active crisis or early trauma recovery, this retreat may not be the right fit at this time.
What if things don’t magically change in three days?
This retreat isn’t about quick fixes or guarantees. It’s about clarity, understanding, and learning how to respond differently when patterns show up. Most couples leave with relief, hope, and a clear sense of what actually helps, which continues to unfold after they return home.
What’s included in the investment?
The $1500 investment includes lodging, all meals, group instruction, and one private coaching session per couple. Transportation to and from Bear Lake, Utah is not included.
Is there follow up support after the retreat?
There is no built in follow up program. Couples who want continued support after the retreat may choose to work with Robyn through coaching, but there is no obligation or expectation to do so.
If you’ve known there has to be a better way,this is where you learn what it actually looks like.
Women’s Retreat | June 27-28, 2025
Friday 9am through Saturday 4pm
Aspenwood Manor, Provo UT
You are welcome to stay offsite or book with us at an additional cost.
A safe, supportive space just for women who have toxic or abusive relationships in their past and are struggling to accept and embrace their sexuality. Led by me, this retreat will help you:
✔ Understand how past trauma impacts your body and relationships
✔ Release shame and rediscover your own desires
✔ Build trust with yourself and deepen emotional connection within a relationship
✔ Gain practical tools to reclaim intimacy—on your terms
✔ Learn how to have a solid sense of self while in a relationship
You’ll leave with a renewed sense of confidence, clarity, and empowerment.
What You Can Expect
✨ A calm, supportive space designed to help you breathe again
✨ Small, intimate group size for personalized guidance and connection
✨ Hands-on practices that make the concepts stick
✨ A beautiful, peaceful setting to step away from the stress, resentment, and patterns that keep you stuck
✨ Time with Robyn and Brent who have walked this journey personally and professionally
This retreat is for couples who are ready for real change, not surface-level fixes.
Why This Retreat Works
Most couples have already tried counseling, books, or countless conversations at home — usually with temporary change.
This retreat approaches things differently by helping each partner:
- strengthen themselves
- understand their patterns with honesty
- build balance between autonomy and connection
- act with integrity instead of reactivity
When each partner grows individually, the relationship becomes a place where closeness and intimacy feel possible again.
Space Is Limited
We intentionally keep this retreat small to give every couple the attention and support they deserve.
If you’re ready to take a step toward peace, connection, and genuine intimacy, we’d love to have you with us.
A Final Thought
Marriage is a “people growing machine.” It is meant to challenge us, it is meant to change us. But it is not meant to break us.
Disclaimer:
While I am a domestic abuse survivor and relationship coach, I am not a licensed therapist, counselor, or medical professional. The information, courses, coaching, and recommendations provided are for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered professional mental health or medical advice. Every individual’s situation is unique, and any decisions you make based on the content shared here are solely your responsibility.